Saturday, July 7, 2018

Someone turns ten

Today is the tenth birthday of my little guy. For a while we convinced him he had outgrown presents, then we convinced him he had only one. I thought it was funny - he did not! 

He wanted wonder woman waffles for breakfast and so that's what he got,. Next on the agenda was swimming at the multiplex. He had a great day - and got to wear his new orange dirt biking gear! 

Friday, July 6, 2018

Three Beautiful Things

1. Artwork from my youngest. Our cat "Orange".

2. More artwork . Zombie cat. Also Orange.
I'm sensing a theme here.

3. The artist himself. Strangely not in his favorite color. I'll let you guess what it is. 

Thursday, July 5, 2018

Thursday Thirteen: CANADA

It was Canada day this week so I am celebrating thirteen things I love about Canada.

1. Poutine
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2. Northern Lights

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3. Lake Louise

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4. Tim Hortons Coffee

5. Ketchup Chips

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6. Equal Marriage all across Canada Since 2005

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7. Terry Fox

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8. Viola Desmond

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9. Universal Public Healthcare

10. The Maple Leaf

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11. Smarties

12. Beavers

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13. John Candy

We have failed the children.

I am writing this in response to an article published in the Globe and Mail about Children with Special needs in Ontario being asked to stay home from school for at least part of the day.

I'm not a parent of a special needs child in Ontario but I'm a parent of a special needs child who has experienced this EXACT thing.

Before I continue let me say that this has been a tough year for school administrators, teachers, aides, my sons and myself.  I am not attempting to lay blame on anyone for what has transpired. This is simply a small portion of what I have experienced this year.

I am NOT writing this to suggest I have the answers.
I am NOT writing this to demean any person that has worked with and for my son - tirelessly.

So what AM I saying then?

We have failed these special needs children.

My oldest son was suspended from school in November for asking for a pair of scissors so that he could kill the principal and kill himself. He is 11 years old and has been diagnosed with FASD. His functional age is somewhere in the 2 - 3 year old realm. He is a big boy - 5'9'' and over 230 pounds and he towers over most people in his school. He was suspended for Friday and when the weekend was over and I called to find out what was happening with him I was told he could not return to class until there was a plan in place to deal with his outbursts. He had many and they were not pretty. They devolved to the incident in which he asked for scissors. It took MANY MONTHS for a plan to be implemented and when that plan was implemented it was for him to attend school for one hour per day until he could tolerate more time being added.

An assessment was done by the school and a team of professionals which deemed him unsafe to be in school. I have never seen this assessment.

I do not doubt that the things he was doing in school caused him to be deemed unsafe. I don't doubt the horrible experience of those in the school who were dealing with him. I support the decision that was made that said " the traditional school environment is too much for this kid to handle" - (although nothing was ever said so concisely). I don't want to be the parent of a kid that goes to school and hurts others. Absolutely not. My kid is not a kid who fits into a traditional classroom setting  - and I get that.

What I AM saying is - there is no place for these kids. There is no place for MY SON in the educational system. Trying to advocate for him was an absolute nightmare in which a top school official called me a "liar" in one meeting in front of a HOST of professionals sitting around the table to attempt to solve this problem. (Needless to say that meeting was a treat to attend).

Getting him to school for one hour per day was RIDICULOUSLY difficult and impossible to maintain. I doubt any family with working parents could support this schedule.  I work full time and I had to find a full time babysitter who could take an eleven year old ALL day, every day,  - but get him to school for one hour of those days. I was blessed to be able to find someone amazing enough to take him, but she was not able to get him to school every single day. Neither was I. We both live more than 30 km from the school in one direction, and that's just ONE of the obstacles we faced.

There was no shortage of time and effort spent on trying to get him back to school. We had ENDLESS meetings with countless professionals - one meeting lasting longer than five hours into the evening.

We have failed these children.

The issue isn't the individuals in the school - some of them genuinely like my guy and are willing to work with him.
The issue isn't the funding  - there's a pretty significant chunk of change to support my guy in school.
There was simply no solution that worked for the school and worked for the family that provided any opportunity for my guy to learn. He is capable of learning.

He can't read or write. He can't do math. He has no friends. He has two places in the world where he feels safe to be himself  - where he is not a threat to anyone, but a kind and thoughtful and exceptionally hard working young man.

There's a handful of people who really want my kid to succeed, including people at his school, but there are no easy answers and while we look for solutions we are losing the kids.

WOO HOO!!!!!

I am back!!!!
I have a laptop and I am connected to the internet and I am BACK baby. YEAH.
I have missed blogging and there has been a crap ton happen in the last year that would have taken me away from blogging anyway, but things seem to be settling down now and I have the means with which to post so here I am.
So here's a quick update:
I am now separated and living alone with the two oldest boys. My goal is to get a divorce as soon as I am able but I have to wait until I have been legally separated for a year.
I am no longer fostering children. Unfortunately because I have to work full time I can't be home full time with the kids and we were licensed as a couple to be foster parents  - I was not licensed as a single person - I have lost the three littles to another foster home in another community. It has been the hardest thing to come to terms with out of everything that has happened and I miss them desperately - all the time.
Overall, I am happier than I have been for a LONG time - and that's saying something! Don't get me wrong - life is not easy - but things are looking up, and now I can get back to writing which I love and miss. Here we go. Keep your hands and arms inside the ride at all times.

Saturday, March 10, 2018

Back in the saddle

Wow I can’t believe it has been two years since I have blogged. I am struggling to get my computer to log me into my blog so this is an attempt to write from my phone. We will see if I can sort out all the glitches and start posting again!

Thursday, April 14, 2016

Thursday Thirteeen : My favourite American Idol performances

I have to admit it, I was a HUGE fan of American Idol. I have watched since season one and I have  loved almost every season. I was so sad that it ended this season, it was truly a show we could watch with the kids that was good and wholesome entertainment. Over the years I have had a few favourite performances. I am trying to recall which of them over the years made an impact on me.

1. Pia Toscano was one of my favourites on American Idol. She sang, I'll stand by you, and the fact she is easy on the eyes never hurts at all.

2. Fantasia sang "Summertime" and killed it.

3. Clay Aiken singing "Bridge over troubled Water".

4. I have had a crush on Kelly Clarkson since the first time I  heard her audition on Idol. I could put all of her performances as favourites and make this entire post about her but I restrained myself. Here is just one of my faves. "Without you".

5. Adam Lambert . Mad World.

6. Chris Daughtry.  I walk the Line.

7. Crystal Bowersox. Midnight Train to Georgia

Crystal gave a better performance in  my opinion of "Come Together" - but I prefer Midnight Train to Georgia.

8. Katherine McPhee.
All of Katherine's performances were good. Black Horse and a cherry tree was great, but I think "Somewhere over the Rainbow" was a bigger fan favourite. Oh, and she is hot.

9. David Cook. Eleanor Rigby

10. David Archuleta. Imagine

11. Dalton Rapponi "Sounds of Silence"
Dalton was my favourite of this last season and I was disappointed he finished third.

12. Trent Harmon "Chandelier"
I was not a fan of Trent  - who won this season - until he sang this song.

13. Lee DeWyze "Hallelujah"
This is one of my favourite songs.

Wednesday, April 13, 2016

12 of 12 : April

Normally I do much better at this than I did this month and now I am having difficulty with my blog formatting which is frustrating. Oh well. Here are my twelve photos - only ten from today because apparently that was all I took today - and not in order of how the day progressed because that's how they are uploading today apparently.

#1. Here is my girl at the end of the day going through all of her clean clothes and wearing everything she could get her hands on. I used to wonder why we had so much laundry  - but I have to keep a close eye on this one who will put clothes into the laundry pile even if she wears them for two minutes - as evidenced by her actions this evening.

 #2. This is actually a photo from yesterday - Maxie man brought this home from school today. I don't know if he actually does school work but this made me happy anyway.

 #3. My Tibetan Prayer flags hanging outside my bedroom window. I need all the prayers I can get.

#4. It is warm enough to wear my birkenstocks today. I may be a little premature since it is only April, but I am being optimistic. There is even a little green grass starting to show.

#5. It's almost a daily visit to Sara's now that the sheep are lambing and some need to be bottle fed. I don't know if she is sick of us or not  yet but the kids want to go every day to see what is unfolding at the farm and help with chores.

#6. Here is another one not from today. This weekend we raked the yard with lots of help.

#7. Max is determined to have a garden this year so he got some of the seeds started. He wasn't waiting around for me to get to it!

#8. Feed the lambs. Check. Oil the bikes. Check. CJ got done everything on his list today!

#9. Obligatory photo of the  dog.

#10. You cant see in this photo but there is a calf in this pen ( by the name of Steve ) who was the intended recipient of this visit.

#11. Bottle babies. Dr. Pepper is just what the doctor ordered.

#12. The end of my day every Tuesday. Ink Master. Love this show.

Thursday, April 7, 2016

Thursday thirteen: My favourite Liverpool FC players

Here is a list of the thirteen former players I love the most from Liverpool FC.
I have linked all of them to pages with more information about them so if you are interested you
can follow the links by clicking on their names. Most links are to Wikipedia pages except for
Micheal Owen and Jamie Carragher who have their own websites.

My personal all time favorite is Daniel Agger.

1.       Daniel Agger

2.       Fernando Torres

3.    Steven Gerrard

4.       Maxi Rodriguez

5.       Dirk Kuyt

6.       Jamie Carragher

7.       Luis Suarez

8.       John Arne Riise

9.       Ian Rush

10.   Micheal Owen

11.   Xabi Alonso

12.   Kenny Daglish

13.   Robbie Fowler